Judge Judy


A few weeks ago, I received a phone call, one of the many, unidentified calls that’s usually a solicitation. I picked it up and then immediately hung up, to silence the ringer. But the phone rang again and it was the same number. Curious, I answered it. As soon as I said hello, a pleasant woman told me that she was a producer for the television program,  Judge Judy.

She said she was calling to invite me to appear on the show, where I would face my ex-husband Paul, and respond to his lawsuit, in front of Judge Judy and nine-million daily viewers. She informed me that Judge Judy is a retired Supervising Judge of the New York City Family Court and the justice that she deals out is legally binding. A few times, I’d seen her ream out one of the people appearing before her on TV. She scolded, permitted no whining and verbally whipped the guilty party. She was tough.

I listened to the producer’s whole presentation, laughing inside, a huge grin on my face.  Since receiving the Summons from the Small Claims Court, I fleetingly thought that this dispute, for money and plants, was the sort of ridiculous lawsuit that would fit well on the show.

Judge Judy’s producer told me that the way they find entertaining cases is to search lists of upcoming small claims suits, in courts all over the country. She also said that they would pay for me (and a friend) to fly to Los Angeles. A limo would take us to a hotel, which they would pay for. The next day, my friend and I would be driven to the studio in Hollywood and, if I lost, they would pay the $5000.00 to my ex-husband. I actually laughed, not at her, but because the situation was so bizarre. It felt like a comical, yet significant dream.

She implied that my ex-husband had accepted the offer and was willing to travel to California. This time, he could be a different kind of media celebrity, from what he was in 2005, when newspapers and television news programs announced his arrest for receipt of child pornography.

Amused at the absurdity of the lawsuit, I laughed to myself the rest of the day, walking around with a silly smile.

Then I stopped laughing.

In the mail, I received a letter informing me the date of the hearing and that Small Claims suits were held in the Superior Court. Me! I’ve never been to court (except to witness Paul’s arraignment) and before this, have never been sued. Until I opened that envelope giving me a real date, the threat of having Paul traipse through my garden making cuttings of what he wants and collect a $5000 check from me seemed like an amusing prank. I believed that the court would see it as a ridiculous demand and throw it out before it happened. I was wrong.

The date of the trial is scheduled for June 26th at 2:00 PM. This afternoon I wrote to the clerk of the court and requested a change of date, because I have a conflict. It’s the ‘Pass the Gavel’ party, where I will become the president of Westport Rotary. I also informed the clerk about the trip my grandson and I have planned right after the 4th of July.

I’m relieved that the event is postponed and I don’t have to anticipate driving fifty-nine miles to confront Paul right now.

While searching Google for information and comments from people who have appeared on Judge Judy, numerous sites showed up. They detail outrageous personal experiences people had on the show. I’m glad I won’t suffer a similar horrific event. http://www.consumeraffairs.com/misc/judge_judy.html

I’ll just have to wait until the trial is re-scheduled and learn what happens then. I’ll let you know. But it will be on hostileentry.com/- not Judge Judy.

About writerladyjane

I'm a writer with a finished memoir, titled Images. Most of the blog posts relate to the general subject of my memoir and are about my experience of Federal Agents entering my home and arresting my then-husband for child pornography, as well as the following two years of threats on me. There are also posts that are of a lighter nature and some to do with my travels, especially a trip around the world I took with my daughter. I have an MFA in creative writing from Fairfield University and live in Westport, CT.
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5 Responses to Judge Judy

  1. Rita Held says:

    This is really interesting! I have watched Judge Judy now and then. She never seems to make the mistake and support the wrong person. And if they are worthy of outrageous insults and attacks, she doesn’t hold back. I don’t think it would have turned out well for Paul if you both had gone to her court. Good luck with what happens there in the small claims court. I still think a sensible Judge might just dismiss it as nonsense at the beginning. If I were the Judge that is what I would certainly do. He can get plants and flowers anywhere. This whole thing looks more like he is trying to have contact with you in some way–any way he can!!! And I would think a Judge would see through that right away! Good luck!
    I wish all the best for you! As for Paul, I have no reason to have any enmity towards him–never had any connection with him ever–but I do have a concern for him spiritually, and for his health too, I suppose, as I do for all of Carl’s relatives. I remember all of them at Mass, especially those who have passed. (With none of them practising their Faith, I am thinking my prayers at Mass are probably the only ones offered for them.) My prayer and hope is that all of them recover their lost Faith and return to the Sacramental life and receive all the blessings that come from receiving Jesus miraculously in the Holy Eucharist at Mass. What joy and peace and happiness they would experience. I have two sisters who have lost their Faith as well. And I suppose there are some others, too…nieces, nephews, cousins, etc. Our greatest act of “love of neighbor” is to pray for them. As for Paul and his plants, he can get them at bargain rates soon around the 4th of July!!! Take care!

    • Rita Held says:

      I just read all the posts of people who have agreed to go on her show–Judge Judy–so horrible. As a viewer, there is no way to know what this sham/scam is really all about. I have cynicism about the media and this just adds to it! At least, some media outlet should be reporting on this dishonesty and abuse of vulnerable, trusting people who are seduced to go on her show. I don’t think I will be able to ever watch her show ever again!

  2. I’m sure you’ll prevail without Judge Judy’s help!

  3. Maury Hill says:



  4. Such an entertaining post, Jane. I’m glad you decided not to be part of Judge Judy’s show; it has never looked pleasant to me, no matter who is right or wrong. The way she addresses people is just crude.

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